Masakit Umasa sa Wala Ngunit Naranasan mo na rin bang Umasa sa parang Meron?
Hi! I’m Suzanne and I’m going to help you learn how to overcome this excruciating feeling by process.
It’s not an easy path for me, to be honest, since I have no one to guide me with these kind of feelings. However, that’ll be not the case for you. I’ll be with you through the process and look out for you. “This is easy to said than done” they say, but once you grapple the situation and the reality of it, you’ll find yourself accepting everything. And finally seeing yourself letting go of the things that weren’t yours to begin with.
First and foremost let’s differentiate feelings and emotions. Most people use the terms “feeling” and “emotion” as same entities, but they are not interchangeable. While they have similar elements, there is a marked difference between feelings and emotions. According to John Williams’ medium post entitled ‘feelings vs emotions’, he states that, definition of how I understand their difference — “Emotions are those intense, raw reactions that bubble up in response to events or thoughts.”, while “Feelings are the more enduring, subdued states that arise from a blend of emotions.” To understand better, a fundamental difference between feelings and emotions is that feelings are experienced consciously, while emotions manifest either consciously or subconsciously.
LETTING GO AND OVERCOMING
“Ang buhay ay weather weather lang”, ika nga ni Kuya Kim.
Ngunit ano bang tugma nito sa topic natin? I’ll correlate this healing process to Kuya Kim’s weather forecast signature quote. Sa healing process natin, we’ll find ourselves na so much drown with the situation for months and then… one day, you’ll just get tired of it and say to yourself na, “ayoko na”, “ayoko ng maging ganito”, “hindi ako ‘to”, “I know my worth”, “I’m tired of being defeated; defeated by people, by chances, by life’s upbringing, or life in general”. After which, you’ll begin picking up yourself piece by piece. But this time, instead of putting it together, you decided to be gentle with it. placing it in a special box called, “memories”, and start building your new self; finding new hobbies, regulating your feelings and emotions, discovering new parts of yourself that you didn’t know you have, and learning more about what life is, etc. Few months later, you’ll see yourself coping, madalas naiisip mo pa rin yung mga chances at oras na nasayang, minsan naiiyak ka pa rin sa mga nangyari sayo, sa mga nawala sayo, and there’ll also be the times that you’ll blame yourself for the things that you let it slide and on why you let things happen for you. And yet, you’re still going on — moving on. Patuloy kang nagpapatuloy at lumalaban because after all, as always, at the end of everything, you only have yourself. There will be a part of you that want to see how things will end up for you, if you won’t give up for yourself. You want to know what’s not giving up for yourself looks like. This will be hard at first, but once you start it, there’s no going back. And I think, most of the times, we’re afraid for a new start because we’re still not ready to let go of that thought. Dahil alam nating once we moved on, wala na talaga, hindi na tayo babalik at wala na tayong babalikan. And that’s a good news! WALA NA TAYONG BABALIKAN! You don’t wait for yourself to be ready dahil walang sinuman ang nakakaalam kung kelan tayo magiging handa, it’s a leap of faith. STAY OR CHANGE. The choice will be always yours.
If there’s one thing I want you to take away from this post is the fact that, once in our life we will encounter this stage but don’t fret many people get through this yet end up with different outcomes. It doesn’t matter how life’s upbringing affects you. What matters is how you react to it. Take accountability in your life, own your mistakes, learn from them. Play with the cards you’re dealt with and embrace whatever life throws at you because always remember that’s what makes you, You. One thing that no one can take away.
This is Suzanne and this is just the beginning. May the odds be ever in your favor.
